In Ghana and especially in some parts of the Northern region talking about sex and the female genitalia is almost like a taboo obviously due to some cultural and religious beliefs and perceptions. But the good news is that things are changing rapidly as more people are getting educated.
The talk of visiting a gynecologist would have sound a lot weirder a few years ago than today, more people are getting comfortable with the idea of letting a strange take look at or “play” with their private private parts if it means they will get their health back.
What else can be more important than health. You can literally do nothing without good health. With sexual transmitted diseases and other diseases related to the female genitalia on the rise, visiting a gynecologist might just become a necessity rather than a choice.
Well, the good news is that there actually some things you could do to prepare yourself and get comfortable with the idea of visiting a gynecologist.
1. Get a mirror and start probing yourself. It’s sounds hippy-dippy, but the better you know your own body, the more empowered you’ll be. Doctors are often scary because they hold all this knowledge that you don’t. Even the playing field a bit by getting down there and taking a look around. Feel inside with your fingers. You can even order your own speculum from a female-friendly place like Good Vibrations so you can see what your gyno can see. (Just be sure to read up on proper procedure.) Plus, it’ll get you familiar with the feeling.
2. Love your vagina. We know talk of speculums and beaver shots may sound gross, but there’s nothing gross about your body. Try to have happy, positive thoughts about your body, especially your genitals learn to love them, and then you’ll want to take care of them by going to the doctor regularly.
3. Go to a doctor who comes highly recommended. Ask around and find out who among your friends and family has a great gyno then, assuming she’s in your health care company’s network, go to her. And we do mean her — having a person who can empathize with your body parts, and not inadvertently make you feel even more self-conscious while your pants are off really makes a difference, at least in our book. But just because a gynecologist is a woman doesn’t automatically mean she’ll have a great bedside manner (which is why you need the personal recommendation), but the odds are probably better with a lady doc.
4. Have a close friend or family member be your wingwoman. Explain that you’re nervous and ask for help. Make the appointment for a time they can come along with you. Have them pick you up and go with you to the appointment. If you’re really scared, then have them come into the exam room with you (just get clearance from the doc’s office beforehand). Have them hold your hand, make eye contact with you and distract you with small talk during the exam. Don’t worry about being perceived as a wimp if it makes you feel better and keeps you up on the exam table, that’s all that matters. If you’re there, you’re not a wimp.
5. Tell your gyno that you’re nervous. Sounds basic, we know, but if she knows you’re nervous (we’re guessing the wingwoman will be a hint!) she can make a special effort to talk you through what she’s doing as she’s doing it. (The best gynos do this as a matter of course, which is just one more reason to get a recommendation.)
6. Learn how to relax, physically and mentally. Take some yoga classes, do your kegels, get in the habit of breathing deeply and abdominally because the more tense you are, the more uncomfortable it’s going to be.
7. Schedule your appointment in the afternoon so you can go to lunch and have a glass of wine first. Then, make sure you have something fun to do with your friend afterwards, so you have something to look forward to. But make a pact with yourself that you can’t do the fun thing unless you go to the doc first.
8. Check yourself: If you think there’s a chance your anxiety stems from some past trauma you haven’t dealt with emotionally, seek professional therapy. (This is not to say, of course, that your anxiety necessarily has a root cause — it’s perfectly natural to be nervous about a gyno visit with no past trauma at all.)
Source: Huffpost/Sanatu Zambang